I relate well to TV characters like J.D. or Ted - guys who seem to have the best of intentions in a relationship, but constantly fumble the ball. Just call me the Warren Moon of dating.
Hopefully, I’ve not made as many fumbles, ers, goofs as Moon’s NFL career record 161 butterfinger moments, but I’ve certainly had my fair share. I can recount a number of bad dates, bad mistakes, and bad relationship decisions that I keep making over and over again. Fumbles in the world of dating that keeps from the ultimate desire of finding that special someone who believes I’m not that bad of a catch.
Why do I keep making the same mistakes? This is a question that I keep asking myself over and over again. I’m certainly not a bad guy, nor am I that bad looking. I think I’ve got a lot to offer someone - nice guy, caring heart, an unmatched knowledge of West Virginia football and other useless trivia guaranteed to fill the night with entertainment. Of course there are other things more important in the dating world than WVU football, I know this.
So what am I doing wrong?
Could it be that I’m divorced? Could it be that I drive a Chevy? Could it be that I can’t cook and I’m not ashamed to admit that? My feeling is that I should probably warn someone from the start about things that could lead to an emergency room visit. (Moment of truth: I’m not that bad of a cook.)
In all honesty, it boils down to this - dating is a game where the key is to learn and advance. You’re not going to win every game, as there is only one game you really win - the one where you find your soulmate or better cook. One day, I’ll find that. I’m pretty confident of that fact, more so than I have been in some time. The key is when one relationship ends, it’s a chance to dust your pants and move on, to grow and mature.
I’ve not always lived into that, but I’m trying more each day by the grace of God.
When I find that special someone, pray for that girl. She is going to know more about WVU football, NASCAR, and a multitude of knowledge from seminary than she’ll care to remember.
